Have you heard the phrase “toxic positivity”? Recently I wrote a blog post about this phenomenon in regard to parenting. A simple way of explaining the term: Coating any and all emotion or emotional reactions with honey, butterflies and rainbows.
While reframing experiences and finding silver linings isn’t a bad thing at all, we can’t immediately go to Sunshine & Lollipop Town whenever our kid, friend or partner is feeling down, worried or sad about something.
Instead of providing comfort and support, someone immersed with toxic positivity might provide a trite, cheerful, meme-like response if our child comes to us because his friend is ghosting him or if our daughter received a poor mark on a test.
However, there’s a fine line between going down a rabbit-hole of despair with our loved ones & flaming them with insincere, invalidating remarks in response to their pain, frustration or disappointment.
Trust me, we’re all guilty of second-guessing ourselves when it comes to responding to parenting crisis and issues…
Be too cheerful and we’re accused of being false or flaky; be too interested or serious and we’re accused of being helicopter parents.KidsAndMentalHealth.com
There’s not necessarily a correct answer here but I think it’s valuable to be aware of phenomenon like “toxic positivity” on our continued parenting journey.
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Yours in peaceful parenting,